I have been talking to a couple of singles lately and asking why they are single? Most of them seem to get it wrong when it comes to marriage, this is why I am taking time to talk about that.
A Lot of singles can’t get married due to unrealistic expectations; women are looking for supermen whilst men on the other hand are looking for supermodels.
Others see marriage as a prison; as soon as you have the ring on, you are sentenced to confinement.
If I have to mark them based on real marking scheme of marriage, they might probably fall below Grade F.
Marriage is about freedom, not restriction. So many people view marriage as a loss of freedom, a loss of independence. When two people truly support each other’s dreams, they live for each other’s happiness and work together to achieve a common goal.
They build a family and Love each other through hard times. That is a blessing and the truest form of freedom. Let no person tell you otherwise.
Ladies, there is no superman. You get married to a reflection of yourself. So the question is, are you a superwoman? Men, marriage is not a fashion show, if you want her to look as such, invest in her.
Marriage is serious business between two complete adults. For two incomplete people can’t complete one another. You will deplete each another instead. Complete yourself and then complement someone else.
Marriage is about giving not receiving. Marriage is not about meeting your spouse halfway or 50/50. In a happy and healthy marriage each spouse gives 100% total commitment, unconditionally and independent of what the other spouse does.
The fact is falling in love is an effortless temporary experience. But staying in love, staying loving and growing in love with the same person you fell in love with, requires the enduring commitment of a loving spouse.
Marriage is for those with the steadfast and enduring commitment to stay in love, to stay loving and to grow in love; “in sickness and in health, for better or worse, in poverty and plenty, in youth or in old age, with radiance or with wrinkles, till death do us part.”
in conclusion, “You were united to your wife by the Lord. In God’s wise plan, when you married, the two of you became one person in his sight. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. Therefore, guard your passions! Keep faith with the wife of your youth” – Malachi 2:15 (TLB).
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